Category Archives: Special needs

Manscaping Mishaps: Hide Your Razors

When my 15-year-old son started sprouting a baby mustache, his sisters promptly campaigned to shave it. “It’s not a good look mom,” they said, and I agreed. But their brother balked at the idea – until I bribed him with … Continue reading

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New tooth fairy in town: the last true believer falls

“Mom, I know your secret. You’re the gift giver,” my son said. And just like that, I lost my last true believer. Thanks to autism’s innocence and credulity, we had a good 12-year run of Christmas magic. “You figured it … Continue reading

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Ghost Boy

Parents see ghosts. My teen-aged daughter sings with her high school choir, and I see the ghost of the baby girl who bounced up and down with excitement in her crib when I walked in her room. My ten-year-old rests … Continue reading

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He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother: 10 strategies for supporting special needs sibling relationships

Like a boulder in a rushing stream, our daughter sat calmly reading on a chaise in the living room, her brother sprawled on the floor next to her, crying and tantrumming. Three adults (me, a babysitter and an ABA therapist) … Continue reading

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Side effects: three strategies for evaluating whether and when to use medication

Have you considered medication? No matter how gently and kindly put, it’s a question that parents of a special needs child wish they didn’t have to hear. Deciding whether and when to use medication for a child is difficult for … Continue reading

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Stupid head, furball, “iniot” and other favorite phrases

One of the joys of raising a child with a developmental disability is a tendency to latch onto and repeat random words or phrases that they hear from TV shows, movies, older siblings or from your-guess-is-as-good-as-mine. And this isn’t your … Continue reading

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Social sheepdogs: nipping and nudging into the mainstream

For several years, our son with special needs has participated on recreational sports teams to develop his social skills and to get some exercise. He has played (and I use this term generously) soccer, basketball and baseball. Coordinated and tall, he … Continue reading

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Mom falls asleep monitoring child’s texts: 4 strategies for navigating the new media frontier

Zzzzz… What? Oh sorry. I fell asleep reading my daugther’s texts. A newly minted middle-schooler, she wants a phone of her own, but we think she’s too young. Our challenge – most of her friends have phones, and she feels … Continue reading

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4 surprising benefits of interacting with my special needs kid: hint, it makes you smarter

As a mom with a PhD, I love it when research supports my mom instincts. Those instincts tell me that typically developing children and their families benefit from spending time with my special needs child, and science thinks so too. … Continue reading

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Seizures and autism: a numbers game

5:30 in the morning. My husband was walking by our son’s bedroom and heard strange noises. He peeked in, and saw our son having a seizure. It lasted for about a minute, and only involved his upper body. After the … Continue reading

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